Yesterday I was invited to go on one of the biggest morning shows in the UK This Morning with delightful presenters Aemonn and Ruth.
Last week a news article came out thanks to Alley Einstein about how I use weights I keep in my store cupboard like beans and marmite for my daily pelvic floor exercises. Alley has been observing my journey for the past 4 years and after all the hoo-ha about jade eggs being unsafe to use, I decided it was time to share my positive experiences with them and after 7 years of experience without any complications I felt ready to share and so confidently I said yes ok!
On the show, I shared the very embarrassing moment when I was barefoot running to get fit and back in trim and suddenly a whoosh of unexpected lack of control left me standing there shocked – it was an ‘oh no’ moment to say the least. I had recently had my third child,was 42 years of age, and due to having big babies my pelvic floor hammock was in need of a serious uplift! It’s not easy sharing things like this live on TV and I tried to get as much of my experience into the slot without being smutty or vulgar in any way, women who are born with a vagina, a pelvic floor, and without proper management during their childbearing years or through general aging sadly 50% or more end up with some kind of issue that significantly can affect their lives quite miserably, and this has become normalized and guess what it’s also big business! I also discussed vaginal orgasms live on air, as since using the jade egg and doing much self-exploration, I was then eventually able to feel more attuned and self-confident and trust and as a result was able to let go completely and experience these god given powerful orgasms thanks to understanding intimacy on so many new levels.
A weak pelvic floor can indeed be very expensive. Is it right to normalize incontinence, stress incontinence, weak bladder control through stress, fight or flight responses which can also cause issues, prolapse? It’s all big business. And we need to talk about it.
To be expected this story has caused quite a stir with very mixed reactions, and let’s face it anything to do with vaginas can often raise a little drama. I decided to speak up as one little voice of many because for me they work a treat and it’s time that all the fear-mongering about the jade egg was put into a more balanced perspective.
Sitting beside me on the sofa was the delightful Dr Sara who was invited to give her opinion as a qualified G.P, Dr Sara raised the important issue of how important it is to do our pelvic floor exercise, but also that some eggs could be unsafe to use due to the quality of them. I agree with Dr Sara about the quality of the eggs, some cheaper stones on the market are often made from low-quality gemstone or even marble! Marble is more likely to scratch and therefore unsafe to use, it is also porous. As for high-quality jade, jade is porous to some degree, in fact everything is porous under the microscope. but good quality jade it is not absorbent and this is what needs to be clarified. Tampons are absorbent and more likely to cause problems if not removed often enough, and they are in many cases a chosen method of menstruation management. Infections are more likely to occur if there is blood involved, and we don’t recommend using a jade egg around your cycle or shortly after, as it takes a little time for the vagina to work its magic and settle down a bit during and after menstruation. Dr Sara also mentioned the risk of scratching internally. If your egg is smoothly polished to industry standard, and as long as there are no internal issues such as scar tissue, or undiagnosed conditions, you will not get scratched by your egg, I recommend though that if you have long nails your more likely to scratch yourself with your nails than your egg, so be careful when inserting the egg if your a well groomed lady. To this date, there has not been a proven case of TSS (toxic shock syndrome) as a result of using a jade egg.
Questions that came up after the interview in comments.
How did she lift that can of baked beans through her trousers?
answer: I am by no means a master of levitation using psychic forces. I cut a small hole into my pants and trousers along the seam mid way where my perenium lies and once my egg is inside (40x30mm) size with the nylon cord threaded. I pass the cord through the small hole in my pants and trousers and then attach the hook on the outside of the trousers ready to hang my items.
She mentioned sipping a cocktail through her back passage, is the egg in her back passage?
No the egg is inside my vagina. I used the visual of sipping a cocktail through a straw up my back passage to engage the correct muscles. So Anus squeezed (not buttocks), relax all the way down, squeeze up, relax down, squeeze up, relax half way down (imagine the egg is in the middle of your vagina and it will follow), and then up up and then all the way down. I then do a series of 10 or more if i’ve got time.
What If The Egg Gets Stuck Up There!
Theoretically no they cannot, they also won’t disappear into your womb via the cervix or into your stomach. If your thread string accidentally does come out and the egg is still in there, just squat down as if your going for a number two, relax a little and push gently, your muscles are designed to give birth, you are certainly able to lay an egg with those same muscles – relax and don’t panic! One thing I must add is that if you use an I.U.D such as a marina coil, or any birth control in the cervix area, please consult your GP before doing any intimate weightlifting.
Will This Make My Vagina Super Tight?
A Vagina is designed by nature to be flexible and to stretch to impressive widths so that either a penis or a babies head can be accommodated. If a vagina is too tight it’s not comfortable for either a head or a penis! Your partner will be delighted when you get more involved and start using your internal muscles when making love. Try and slow it down a bit and experiment together once you have got the hang of it and enjoy the results (I’ll be talking more about the sexual side of things at a later date). Even women who have had C-Sections do not get away scot free without some pelvic floor issues. The pelvic floor muscle which hangs from the Coccyx bone to the pubic bone is supposed to be like a taut trampoline and is there to support the bladder, the vagina, and the anus. When a baby grows bigger inside of you the weight of the baby can put immense stress on the pelvic floor hammock. But like any muscle, if you exercise it post birth and in turn encourage blood flow to this area, the circulation and exercise train the pelvic floor to get stronger and back to its rightful place. It will not happen without the work! Also sitting down watching hours of TV, or staring at your phone puts your whole body into bad alignment. Get off the sofa and go for brisk fast walks, pulling up as you go, pull up and engage when you cough, laugh, sneeze. When walking don’t stare at your phone, put it away or in your bag, it’s time to start walking upright again and not slouching and squashing all your organs.
I have tried and tested many eggs over the years, and even used a scalpel on some of them to test for myself to see if they scratch. Also the drill holes are often not correct. Below is an example of a high-grade jadeite egg compared to a marble egg with the drill holes in the wrong place. The one on the left is jadeite and the one on the right is a low-grade egg. There are also many other silicone products on the market as an alternative. Silicone is a hybrid between synthetic rubbers and synthetic plastic polymers and personally, I don’t like the idea of having these chemicals in my nethers, it is also not biodegradable. I also do not like the idea of having a phone app attached to my chosen method of an intimate tool with Bluetooth frequencies up there, plus I think when doing these exercises it’s important to really tune in down there and put the phone down for a while. Data is also not as private as we think, but that’s just my personal choice.
If you are looking for a jade egg and are interested it’s important to buy from a certified seller, and in my opinion and without prejudice the best stones to use are either hetian nephrite, nephrite stone, or jadeite. Jadeite and nephrite are very dense in their interwoven structure, smoothly polished without the use of chemicals or dyes, and though more expensive than cheaper eggs, they also rise in value so they are an investment too, if you condition your pelvic floor using the exercises you will end up saving money in the long run. There are also xiuyan eggs on the market which is a type of serpentine stone, these are lower in price and also very popular as an alternative. Some women who are interested in the healing aspects of gemstones and who have more esoteric belief systems as a way of life, like to use stones like rose quartz. Rose quartz is more fragile in structure, they can break easily especially if you drop them on the floor or boil them and they are best cleaned using warm water and vinegar, but each to their own. The intention is a mind over matter thing, and if a woman’s intention is to heal herself using rose quartz for self-love and if it works for her this way, then good for her.
The jade egg practice is used by millions of women all over the world for their intimate journey of self-discovery and empowerment. This incredible stone egg has quite an interesting history that spans over a thousand years, and was originally only used by Queens and Concubines as an aid to strengthen their intimate muscles to please the king. Apparently, the story goes back in those days, if the chosen concubines didn’t please the king well enough with their vaginal kung fu, they were often carted off to live in a cold castle for the rest of their lives – how miserable!
Luckily times have changed and now these eggs have been popularised in the west, and many women have developed a relationship with their egg for their own personal self-confidence and intimate strength and the awareness of them is on the rise.
After the show I was dropped home, and have to admit I did feel more nervous about going to the school gates than ever before, what on earth were people going to think of me if they saw it? Luckily and gratefully two of my friends came up to me and gave me the warmest hug of support and we just had the best group hug moment I’ve had in a while, I had texts from my friends both male and female in support and family too. My husband had some funny texts from some of his male friends pulling faces and holding cans of baked beans and we did giggle a lot at some of the comments. I have also been discussing with some of my lady friends about doing some trials with them for research and we will be working with a qualified G.P as we go. In the States trials have started with other jade egg practitioners and I hope that in the UK we can do the same, the more we do the work, the more likely the jade egg method will recover from all the negative press out there. So watch this space.
with love and kindness and openness